This is an email exchange I recently had with a reader of the site. As you can tell from the headline and the picture to the left, he recently decided to shave his head. He was going bald and finally decided that he was going to own up to it. I found his words particularly inspiring and motivating and I think you will get a lot out of them if you are also struggling with hair loss.
Hi again Phil,
It’s been a few weeks since I first emailed to thank you for your blog and I wanted to touch base and once again thank you for your email, your kind words and the booklet that you sent.
I reached out as I really wanted to conquer my fear of my male pattern baldness and if you check out my attached photo, you will see that I have finally decided to face up to my hairloss and embrace the bald man I was becoming. I’ve attached a before hairloss and an after hairloss comparison to show you the man I am today to who I was 5 years ago as I’m a little sad that I probably now look older than my 27 years, but feel so happy to now not have to worry about the bald spot that was increasing as well as the thinning hair and my increasing forehead.
For a few weeks now after emailing you I had been walking past a barbershop near my work and on Friday after work I finally decided to walk right in and get my head shaved smooth to hopefully begin a new journey. I felt like the troubles and worries of the past 3 years of hairloss just went away because even though I experimented with buzzed hairstyles I never felt comfortable and always grew my hair back.
I feel it’s a dawn of a new era and even though I still need to properly showcase the new me in front of my mates and family and workmates, it’s one I’m excited about pursuing and I’ve even invested in a headblade and chucked my hair products all in the rubbish in order to fully commit to this new me. I’m also keen to get back in the dating game as I was previously of the feeling that women wouldn’t want me if I had no hair – well now I just want to dive right in as there’s no turning back now.
Your blog definitely helped as I sought inspiration from yourself as well as those inspirational bald celebrities like Daughtry, Justin Masterson and even The Rock who all embraced their hairloss and never lost their confidence. I realise it’s still early days yet but I feel relieved, happy and excited about this new journey.
Hey *****,
Great to hear from you and I can’t tell you how happy I am reading your email. To be honest, I actually think you look better with the shaved head! Of course, the most important thing is how you feel about yourself. Your words capture exactly how I felt after I shaved my head the first time. And believe me I passed many barbershops before I finally bit the bullet. But once I did it, I felt liberated in a way that was previously unimaginable to me. I would definitely recommend staying committed to it and letting yourself really grow into the look. It took me a little while to get fully comfortable with it. Feel free to email me whenever and let’s stay in touch.
Cheers,
Phil
Hey Phil
Thanks for the feedback, lol yeah I’m definitely still adjusting and still can’t believe it’s me when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror haha.
It’s been an interesting few days but I do love it, the complete smooth scalp is awesome to feel and it’s so good to not have to worry about how my hair looks or if people can see my bald spot, it’s a definite relief.
I will admit I feel like I’m in a bit of a mourning period for my hair as silly as it sounds. Whilst I was at the barbers the other day I couldn’t help but get a bit jealous of the other blokes getting their hair done in the latest styles while I was there getting the clippers and straight razor to my scalp. I’ve been working on getting a tan and my mates feedback has been positive. I’ve of course received some ribbing e.g being called cue ball etc. but I’m just going to own it. The first real test was the workplace today and everyone was complimentary with people asking to feel though some didn’t quite understand my choice but I just said it was time. I’ve even been thinking maybe I should grow a beard as a way of balancing out the new look lol, I can’t grow hair in one place so maybe I should make up for it elsewhere haha.
I thank you once again for a great blog as it is good to know I’m not alone and that in time everything will be okay.
I’ll definitely be in touch with progress but for now I feel like a new man who is not going to let my hairloss defeat me. I can only hope I can help someone else out one day.
I think this reader will indeed help someone else. I can talk all I want on this site about how shaving my head has helped me conquer my hair loss, but it looks a bit thin if I’m the only one saying it. This letter reinforces many of the things I have been saying in previous posts and hopefully it helps guys understand that there is in fact life after male pattern baldness, and that yes you can adjust and even appreciate a new look and lifestyle.
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Hi, I'm Phil. I started losing my hair when I was 19. After years of anxiety and stress caused by losing my hair, I realized how to get over it. Now I'm helping others do the same.