That’s me. I am skinny. I am pale. I am bald.
Skinny. Pale. Bald. What do you associate with these words? A cancer patient? A prisoner of war? I doubt you imagine a dude with these physical qualities posing in a magazine spread.
I’m going to tell you why none of those associations matter: ugliness is a state of mind. Your appearance matters only as much as it effects your confidence.
It’s true that as a bald man, there are probably more snap judgments made about me. A girl who never talks to me may look at me and have the same aforementioned associations popping up in her head.
But if I talk to her it won’t take her long to understand that I am confident and comfortable in my own skin. This sends a powerful message. It sends the message that I am in control of my situation. This is disarming. And not just for women.
Maybe you have experienced this. It is the moment when everything is clicking. When you are completely comfortable. When you are at ease with your words and your thoughts and it all just seems to come together. When you possess this feeling, it does not matter if you are bald or not, because the people around you understand that you have got something figured out.
Watch how they become more interested in you.
I will admit that gaining confidence as a bald man is not the easiest thing in the world. That’s one of the reasons this site exists. I’m going to be offering up a lot more posts on building confidence, and if you join the email list you will receive additional tips there.
For now, I’m going to leave you with lyrics from Brother Ali, an albino rapper who has a shaved head.
Ayo, Dependin on the day, and dependin on what I ate
I’m anywhere from 20 to 35 pounds over weight
I got red eyes and one of them’s lazy
And they both squint when the sun shines so I look crazy
I’m albino man, I know I’m pink and pale
And I’m hairy as hell, everywhere but fingernails
I shave a cranium that ain’t quite shaped right
Face tight, shiny, I stay up and write late nights
My wardrobe is jeans and faded shirts
A mixture of what I like, and what I wear to work
I’m not mean and got a neck full of razor bumps
I’m not the classic profile of what the ladies want
You might think I’m depressed as can be
But when I look in the mirror I see sexy ass me
And if that’s somethin that you can’t respect then that’s peace
My life’s better without you actually
To everyone out there, who’s a little different
I say damn a magazine, these are gods fingerprints
You can call me ugly but can’t take nothing from me
I am what I am doctor you ain’t gotta love me
In a related post, read why I think the tide is turning on society’s acceptance of baldness as a look. As always, feel free to contact me and let me know what you think.
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