Earlier I wrote about how to look good bald. Some guys, however, think they can’t look good bald. This is a point I also address in the How to Deal with Hair Loss ebook. Here are some common reservations guys have when it comes to buzzing off their hair:
I am too pale
My head is oddly shaped
I have a mole/birthmark(s) on my scalp
My facial features are too big
I am sure there are many others. Personally, I am pale and I have more than a few moles/freckles on my head. These are visible even if I use the #2 setting on clippers. I also have a strange white patch in my beard and a few acne scars on my face.
Yet somehow, I don’t feel like my appearance has been compromised at all. In fact, I think I look good. The next 20 people I meet could tell me otherwise and I would still think I look good.
Your head is oddly shaped only if YOU think so. You are too pale only if YOU think so.
And even if someone makes a comment or throws you a look, and you know it is about some physical characteristic of yours, it is still only a problem if YOU think it is.
Wait a minute. There are some physical traits that are just ugly, aren’t there? I mean we have some evolutionary predispositions to seek “attractive” mates, right?
It’s true that some women will just be turned off by bald men. Other women, however, are turned on specifically by bald men. I wrote about this in the article Do Women like Bald Men?. Seriously, some women go crazy for bald men. You might find yourself getting approached just by shaving your head. It’s not really worthwhile though to expect women to like you or not based on your hair or lack of it.
The mitigating factor is confidence. It’s true that we have genetic and evolutionary predispositions. But people, and certainly women, are also inclined to gravitate to those that are confident. When it comes to finding a man, women have a priority: a man who makes them feel comfortable and secure. Hair does not factor into this equation.
Be confident. Smile. Take care of yourself. And understand that it is you who controls how you feel about yourself.
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If you enjoyed this post, check out my How to Deal with Hair Loss ebook. It details my personal story of beating male pattern baldness, explains all the options for dealing with hair loss, and offers concrete tips and strategies for getting over it and building confidence.
Hi, I'm Phil. I started losing my hair when I was 19. After years of anxiety and stress caused by losing my hair, I realized how to get over it. Now I'm helping others do the same.
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