Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself

I’ve been there. For a long time I just couldn’t believe it. Losing my hair at 19?! It’s so easy to think: How can this be happening to me? How can I possibly be this unlucky? I know it’s difficult. I know you can’t just snap your fingers and get over it. At the same time, it’s easier than you think.

Before you get motivated to grab some clippers and go to town, the first thing you need to do is stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Stop looking at your thinning hair (or nonexistent hair) as a problem. Because you know what? It’s not a real problem.

I have a family friend who is paralyzed from the neck down. They also have significant brain damage. That is a real problem. They were in a car accident for which they were not at fault. That is unlucky and that is truly unfortunate.

Don’t want to hear that things could be worse? I got you. In fact, I understand completely. Lots of times when I hear “it could be worse,” it sounds to me like there is an acknowledgement that things are somewhat bad. They’re bad.. just not that bad.

No. I’m here to say they’re not even bad. In my last post, I talked about how the tide is changing. Let me give you a visual in case my last post wasn’t clear enough.

We’re going from this..

To This..

If you don’t see the difference, let me spell it out. The first is a perpetually insecure, always-made-fun-of, unconfident, bufoon (don’t get me wrong, I love George Costanza, but let’s be real, this was a big part of his character), while the second is a confident man who is comfortable in his own skin.

And guess what? You don’t need to look like Jason Statham to be like Jason Statham.

This is not about the difference between a Seinfeld character and Jason Statham. This is about the difference between two eras of time. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Be thankful that we live in a time where baldness is becoming increasingly accepted. Be thankful that you can still define who you are. Be thankful that bald men who accept the look are seen as confident.

You’d be surprised at the power of a change in mindset. Look at baldness as an asset. Accept hair loss and start living your life for you.

Sad face photo credit: http://highqualitypic.blogspot.com/2011/06/sad-face.html

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