I Don’t Have All the Answers

I recently noticed that people were clicking over to my site from a hair loss help forum. As the number of hits increased in my stats counter, I checked out the thread to see what was going on. It seems like the forum is mostly guys discussing how to best keep their hair with a variety of treatment regiments, although some on the board seem to promote acceptance. I also noticed a bit of debate about my site in some of the comments.

At least one person wrote that he did not like my anti-treatment stance. I guess I am anti-treatment. Treatment didn’t work for me. It caused side effects that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. But the fact that treatment didn’t work for me isn’t the only reason why I have written anti-treatment posts on this site.

More than anything, I find any industry disturbing if it is based on guys feeling bad about themselves. More and more guys are shaving their heads and learning to accept hair loss, but if you were to believe Rogaine or Hair Club for Men, it is not possible to be happy without a full head of hair. Their commercials have gratuitous shots of beautiful women running their hands through a guys hair and everyone gets the message: lose your hair and you won’t find a woman. Lose your hair and life isn’t worth living.

Of course, we get this message from other places. It’s not just companies hawking their products. But as the tide continues to shift and more guys start to embrace male pattern baldness rather than battle it with pills, foams, lasers and surgeries, these companies are going to ratchet up their message as it affects their bottom line. You think Rogaine wants guys to know that they can get women and be happy without a full head of hair? Hell no. They want you to think that you would be a damn fool to even consider it.

At the end of the day, you have to make decisions for yourself. The internet is mostly filled with websites promoting treatments and hair regrowth. My site and the few listed on my links page are more focused on acceptance. There aren’t many of us and it’s not like there’s a lot of money in promoting this lifestyle. I’m certainly not going to be getting rich off of my ebook anytime soon.

Funnily enough, I actually pay more attention to the treatments in my ebook than I do on this site. I go over each one individually and I talk about pros and cons. In the end, I advocate for acceptance, but I want to be clear about something. The most important thing is that you are at peace with who you are. I don’t have all of the answers. I am not an authority. You are your own person. I am convinced that my approach can work for any guy suffering from male pattern baldness and I will help any guy on that quest, but it is not my place to tell a guy that they are on the wrong path if it is working for them and putting them at peace.

If you want me to elaborate any further or if you have anything else on your mind, feel free to get in touch with me on the contact page.

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